I find that when I meet people I tend to be very relaxed and will assess them eventually, but I don't want any JW judgmental nonsense, so I allow them a lot of "slack", and take them as they are etc etc.
This has been fine with normal people who have never been a JW, and I have had no problems.
But I find my judgment has been awry with some XJW's, I tend to think that they will have gone through a similar journey to me, and therefore they will have determined, like me, to be a much better person than I was as a JW.
But just the odd XJW has caught me out, and despite giving them many chances, I have found that they are TOXIC, and simply not the kind of person I wish to have in my life.
I suppose this is down to my naivety, but I just thought that they might have wished to turn out better, not so it seems.
I have to say this is actually the exception, nearly every XJW I know is actually rather lovely, and loving, but not all. Silly me, still hoping for Paradise I suppose.