from Sir Anthony Hopkins....from exjw reddit

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  • zachias

    Wise words from Sir Anthony Hopkins

    ′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want change.

    Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it's a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

    When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren't ready to accompany you.

    If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.

    That's what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.

    The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.

    There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.

    The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.

    Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life.

    The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.

    When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen.

    You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for people and give your life to them!

    Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.

  • Diogenesister
    Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people.

    That just niggles at me. Does it mean that if people aren't at your level of success (or God forbid, health) it's not worth your time associating with them?

    Most of what he says is bang on, but there's an underlying message that unnerves me. It doesn't mean that his words will have that affect on you, you may dismiss my fears as needy and clingy or the fears of an unsuccessful looser. But there you are. That's just me.

  • waton

    fine, but you might never find them. and when you do, they might not be that appealing in some ways.

  • hoser

    There is a lot of truth in the opening post.

    We’ve only got so much time. Why squander it on someone who doesn’t care?

  • truth_b_known

    This is a moving post. Thanks for sharing.

    I think the underlying idea being made is that relationships are a two-way street. Don't chase after people. If they are not making an effort or putting energy into the relationship it isn't a relationship. It is just you clinging on to a desire.

  • pistolpete

    Most of what he says is bang on, but there's an underlying message that unnerves me.

    Could it be because his real self is coming out;

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