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simplesally

Sns, I know this is all so hard, but it really has been a long time coming. The good thing is that now you have the support that you need to make hard decisions. You have "family" out here, you have a good job, you have the "bf" (and he soooooooo wants you in his life) and you have this site where so many have done this as well. Your friend back home will not understand and will be pissed but she was pissed all the time and very judgmental even when you were in the "truth." She has a lot to learn in the patience area.

Sassy

Thanks Sal. I do know I have people I can count on and it means a lot. I have my close friends like you, and yes, this bf who is unbelievably here for me through this and I do appreciate this forum and the support already given here.

onacruse

((sns)) It's a helluva a rough row to hoe.

If ya feel like venting some spleen, or just to talk for a bit, let us know, eh?

Hang tough...we've all been on the same journey, even if by different paths.

Craig & Kate

Sassy

Thanks. I think I did vent a bit here last night. Not looking forward to the next few weeks. Wish I could just fade away from some. Unfortunately it won't be that easy. It helps to know though, that others have gotten past this and I will too.

Sassy

Well, a friend who supposedly loves me just learned today about me taking a hiatus as well as dating a "wordly" man. The email I received was as vicious as one could compose. She ended the letter by saying not to play mind games and I might as well go get a gun and shoot my head off or slit my wrists and suggested I probably have HIV any way. Like if the other attacks she gave me weren't enough in the email before that about how selfish I was being, etc etc etc to put in a knife and twist it around, lets suggest I be suicidal and just take care of it all now or better yet, lets hope I have HIV and can slowly, painfully reap what she imagines I must have sown.

How is this love? How is this christian? How does one say things things to someone you think you love and not realize how it is coming out.

Oh and she also had to add the only thing she felt bad about was for my mother. Lets get the mom guilt in there too.

jwbot

With friends like that, who needs enemies? But sns...SAME EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME. I didn't go to meetings for a while, and of course I was seeing this wonderful man and the next step in our relationship was us moving in together. He was really supportive (yeah those damn worldlies are so mean, eh?) and the witnesses (including my family) turned out to be awful, unloving people. It hurts realy bad at first, and then you realize they were never friends, they only had conditional love for you, and when you break a rule, you are out...who wants friends like that? As for the family...thats a tougher bond to break. They didn't talk to me at first...but not currently, my brother (he always talked to me, good guy) my mother and now my father talk to me. One of my sisters will talk to me if she sees me, doesn't make an effort, but maybe soon..and my other sister is just a crazy evil person anyway. Counsuling helps BIG TIME. see a cousulor...they know how to handle this. HUGS! PM me if you want more info, because this is exactly what happened to me. My family found out before I told them though, unfortunately. :(

Aztec

Whoa! What an email! She doesn't sound like a very nice person in general. Why would you tell someone you love that you hope they have HIV? If it helps any sometimes people cool after the initial gut reaction. I know I'm not much help but I just wanted to let you know I'm here to listen anytime.

~Aztec

Sassy

Thanks jwbot and aztec. I must admit she really hurt me. Been trying to blow it off, but it isn't that easy. I just can't imagine ever treating someone I cared about so cruelly. There were other accusations as well. It was a total teardown. I keep thinking, what does a person gain by acting like that? Can she expect me to change my mind?

I showed part of the email to a coworker and she looked at me and said, that is no christian.

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