Village Idiot » By the way, [one's wife] can be disfellowshipped for allowing her child to have a transfusion.
Just a side question here, but what if the husband allows a child to receive a transfusion over the objection of the wife?
Let's say the wife joins the JWs but the husband doesn't? Then, nine years later the husband allows their child to receive the transfusion. And let's say the child is being raised a JW?
Or let's say they were both JWs but the husband left? Would she face any repercussions for not divorcing him before this became an issue?
Now here's another hypothetical. Both are JW converts, but their son is 15 and doesn't want any part of the religion. If they decided he was old enough to make his own decision, and they let him, could either be DFed? What if either had a parent who wasn't a JW, but needed a transfusion. Would the parent not being a JW be a mitigating factor?
I've been told that in situations involving blood transfusions, the KHs send people to the hospitals very quickly to take control of situations in which one or both parents may weaken in their resolve. I've always wondered how often that happens, that parents weaken. If they do, can they be forgiven? Does it normally take the decision of both parents to deny a child blood? And would it be possible to allow the transfusion and just not tell the elders? (For example, if a member simply disagreed with the policy.)
I imagine it would be tough to watch a child die by withholding blood, and especially if you did so and later figured out that the religion wasn't all it cracked up to be.