The dynamic between them versus me is abusive.
My dad didn't think I had any reason to be bitter.
He said I CHOSE to leave "Jehovahs People" and this is what I should expect as treatment. "What did you expect?"
I was told that how I live my life affects others, and I hurt everyone when I did this (I replied with a sarcastic 'congratulations'). I hurt THEIR feelings.
He said that shunning is not abuse, no matter how I may feel or what it looks like to me (wow)
He didn't understand how they could have been abusive at all to lead me to this path, and there was no possible way this could be their or JW ideals fault
I was fairly calm, and I didn't mince or censor words in my conversation, and he sounded more desperate than self-righteous. His hope for the "new world" clearly brings him comfort, and I don't wish to take that from him.
What is telling though; I flat out asked him
"How do you explain to other people that you're shunning your child and pretending he doesn't exist?"
And he hemmed, hawed, and deflected and asked me "what I believe in now?" Which lead to his criticism of my agnosticism.
He had no answer.