by iiz2cool 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • iiz2cool

    I am bored.

    I must not be accustomed to having a normal life or something. I have too much time, and nothing to do with it. It's been 7 weeks and 3 days since I sent my letter of disassociation. I spoke to an elder that same evening regarding my position. That was the last argument I had with them, and now I'm bored as hell. I can still get some enjoyment by saying hello to a JW when I see them out in public. I enjoy the sour expressions on their faces when they see me. But I'm sure even that will get a little stale after a while. Other than my marital problems and my sick mother, there's little upheaval in my life, and I'm not used to it. Things are slow at work, so I spend most of my time there, and at home, surfing the internet. I must have seen every web site on the internet at least three times. There's nothing on TV that's worth watching, even though I have satellite TV. It seems like half the channels have the same programming as the other half. On a positive note, I am able to go out for a beer with friends now and then. But overall, I AM GOING NUTS!!!

    I think I'll join a fitness club tomorrow. And become an activist.

    Thanks for indulging my rant.


  • shamus

    If you're bored, check out this picture I found on a gay porno site.

    It's the rare star-trek where spock and the captain get nasty.... pretty brutal!


    P.S. I do not watch star-trek. Sorry.

  • Special K
    Special K

    Hey iiz2cool

    Fitness club sounds great..

    It will get you moving and give your metabolism a boost... and you meet people there.

    Do you have an old hobby that you used to like .. You might want to pull that out.

    If you recently Disassociated yourself you'll have alot more free time to do something that..


    Take this time to figure out what that might be..

    and have some fun while your at it.

    Special K

  • Elsewhere

    Try this...

  • pettygrudger

    Walter - try joining a charity that you believe in, like Habitat for Humanity, Meals on Wheels or some other organization that you take a kinship to. You'lll not only meet new people, but you'll be getting a wonderful sense of purpose and the joy of helping others.

    Step away from the keyboard & join the real world - you're needed there!

  • ballistic

    I was lucky, I discovered two things after I was disfellowshipped.

    Beer and passion.

    In no particular order.

  • ninecharger

    Of course you are bored.

    For the first time in your life you have days and days of extra time you never had to think about what to do with. Buy a box of tampons and read the label:

    You can dance, swim, read, hot air balloon, scuba dive, travel, write a novel, write poetry, paint, draw, have ecstatic sex, meet the Dalai Lama, learn to play music, compose, climb mountains - you'll have a better time than any of us...

    This is your first and last life. Get out there and enjoy it, don't sit here reading this (ADDICTIVE) board so much!!!


  • shamus

    Step away from the keyboard & join the real world - you're needed there!

    Excellent advice!

    Get involved in your community! Volunteer doing something that you like, i.e. go to the volunteer center and they will interview you and offer possibilities where you would be most comftrable. It is a great way to get out in the community and make new friends, whilst helping people. Very rewarding indeed. And it costs you NOTHING!

    Volunteer for big brothers, scouts, helping the elderly, helping anyone. Don't be shy, just do it! I have never regretted it!


  • Francois

    I suggest you do the passion first, then the beer. See, the beer if taken in too great a quantity will zip the lead right out of your pencil and there'll be NO passion that night, not with no floppy pencil. See what I mean? So, try to remember: passion first, beer later.


    iiz2cool: well...it's going to take some time.

    Big adjustments, for sure.

    Slowly but surely, things will be pretty interesting. You'll make some new acquaintances, which I hope will lead to good friendships.

    I think you're going to be fine. The important thing is, you haven't gone completely off the deep end, or have left the JWs 'in a blaze of glory' if you know what I mean.

    You're mature, wise and are balancing your moves. You've got a lot on your plate right now.

    All I can say is, IMHO, you're fun to hang with (I know) and you've got a great attitude.

    I remember when I left the JWs back in 1983/84 - oh man...I didn't know which way to turn. I sort of felt a bit of what you are feeling now.

    Anyways, the Beer Festival is today, and that's going to be fun!

    Rock n' roll

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