FWIW, one thing that really helped us, was that when one of us was down and not feeling like working on making friends, the other one was usually on an upswing and would insist that the one who was down would get out there.
Maybe we just got lucky in that.
At one point, early on, there was a new music director at the college where my wife works who teaches classical guitar at a higher level than anyone else in the area. I'd quit taking lessons quite a while before because there wasn't anyone who was teaching what I needed.
My wife said, "Do you want to take lessons?". I said, "Maybe next year or something... I'm too stressed with everything going on."
She said, "I think that's a big mistake. This guy might only be here a year or two."
I listened to her, and I've taken lessons for six or seven years from him and even had nice paying gigs as a result. Concentrating on the guitar was a great distraction from leaving the Watchtower.
A year ago he told me to stop paying for my lessons, because I'm more of a friend than a student. He's planning on putting together a band and asked if I want to be in it.
The point is, get out there! Even when you don't feel like it!