Over a year ago I divorced my husband. He is the son of an elder, was addicted to pornography, and started doing drugs before I called it quits.
Since then, I have met someone else. We plan to marry. He is not a witness. I lived with him for several months, then moved back to my hometown. We are engaged.
Since my return, I have been told that in order for my exhusband to remarry, I need to be dealth with. I already told the elders that I was living with my fiancee (it was either me, or my family telling them, so I chose to do it) and the CO himself told me that that was all they needed and that my ex was free to remarry. A few months later, I am told that a letter from the society (I guess the elders wrote them because they didnt know what to do) told them to deal with me before my ex can proceed to get on with his life. I phoned the so called chairman of the judicial comittee, crying and begging them to leave me alone. I was given ultimatums, threatened ("If you dont meet with us, we will proceed without you!") He asked me if I was in a relationship now. I told him it was none of his business. He tried to tell me that they wanted to help me. I laughed through my tears. I hung up on him and wrote my DA letter after that.
That night, he phoned my house. I refused to speak to him. He told my dad that they decided to DF me and that I could appeal within 7 days. My dad said there was nothing to appeal, I made the decision. The elder raced to my house to pick up the DA letter. I told my dad to tell him that they better announce it that I DA'd myself, not the other way around. The elder said he would "dicuss it with the brothers."
I am distraught. I am 28 and have been baptized for 12 years. My mother, and brother in law are baptized and live in this house. My sister is studying. I feel sick inside, even though I know it is what I had to do. I feel like I have been sentenced to death.