The therapist offers a safe environment in which the client can express and explore their feelings, if the therapist offers congruence, is non-judgmental and is genuine, the empathic process will cause the client to self discover where by they will naturally find what it is that is causing the disturbance in their lives. It sounds simple, but it is very successful. -- Brummie
I took a first year psychology class in college. There are three or four different methods (theories) that are all meant to do just what you said: have the patient to draw up from within the solution. It's true: the truth lies within.
It is a safe haven, and it's a blessing to talk to someone who is totally objective. Sometimes just hearing myself talk about stuff helps me figure it out, and more often than not the doctor gives me something to think about, or gently leads me in a direction I wouldn't have thought to go. Big Tex is excellent for helping me get my feelings out and letting me yell into a pillow if I need to, or cry hysterically for an hour. The right therapist can make all the difference. – Cruzanheart/Nina
Kinda goes hand in hand with Brummie's comment, huh? I don't see why a loved one who is objective and non-judgmental COULDN'T serve the same purpose, maybe even better than a professional since the loved one knows you so much better. Good for you, Nina. And Big Tex.
I remember when I told him that I would be excommunicated and my parents wouldn't speak to me if I disagreed openly about my parents religion. He about fell out of his chair. That was when I realized this religion was really screwed up. – unique1
What did I say about epiphanies!!? Something may seem totally normal to us... until we view it from somebody else's point of view!
He is like you Teejay always very black and white and he sees not colors of gray.
Correction. It was the person I was as a JW that only saw things in black and white.
Now? I ONLY see grays. Obviously many of the things that I once thought were right (field service, labeling people into categories, "my religion is the only right one", Jehovah is god's name, etc) I don't even believe anymore; and much of what I once thought was wrong (voting, celebrating holidays, serving in the military, homosexuality, sex before marriage) I've come to see is up to the individual.
Well, I did a couple of years of AA. I think that counts as therapy... "To thine own self be true."
I know what you mean, Onacruse. If a person is honest, they're at least 70% of the way toward recovery and help. The people who never acknowledge the problem in the first place – who are always shifting the blame – are the ones who never find the answer to what's wrong with them. (BTW, I didn't go for two years, but I've gone to several AA meetings and found them to be head over heels to any JW meeting I'd ever attended.)
I never went to see a therapist, and never felt the need to go. I'm happy and healthy, and have no problems I can't solve by my own. I never see any kind of doctors BTW. I try to understand my physical and emotional traits, and I deal with it rather well. Being hypersensitive, I can pinpoint a problem and solve it myself. – JH
I think it takes a pivotal event in a person's life that makes them even think there's a need to seek help. Either that or the creeping realization that "something is wrong and I'm going to find out what it is."
If it hadn't been for my contentious marriage(s), the idea would never have crossed my mind to seek out a professional, either. Even when I was a hardcore JW I always saw myself as a pretty settled and centered person. Even though I am, I still benefited from the experience.
Having a close friend or spouse you can confide in is often a good equivalent. For those on the fence, you can't go to your friends because that is apostasy, but you probably don't have any non-JW friends that you can talk to, at least not anyone who would understand. – gcc2k
I agree with you 100%. See what Cruzanheart said above. I think being able to talk to a loved one who's non-judgmental would be a tremendously useful outlet. The only problem is that they are biased toward us (favorably or negatively) and may not say or even know exactly what we need to hear in order to help us best. To be the best, what we hear has to come from a person who's not only non-judgmental but totally objective.
As far as the JWs go (or anyone in a high control group), they are really in a jam. It's like you say: they can't be open and honest with "the friends" because of the repercussions and they can't talk to "worldly" people either because who'd understand? It's just another reason why I feel for them.