The New Gender Gap

by DanTheMan 15 Replies latest jw friends

  • obiwan

    Boy it pays to be older! lol

  • asleif_dufansdottir

    I tried to use it jokingly, but I recognize that it's a pretty loaded label - I won't use it again. Sorry if I offended!

    Thank you. It's appreciated that you are willing to say so.

    It's a terrible shame that boys are not living up to their full potential, and that some things about the system makes it hard for them, but girls should not be blamed if they do well and the boys don't. Think of it this way, women have had to fight against the system for generations (think about what it was like for women in med schools even up til the late 70's), and they have been successful and are doing well.

    Liz alpha-female middle-aged feminist

    "I have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is; I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute." - Rebecca West, 1913

    Because woman’s work is never done and is underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious and we’re the first to get fired and what we look like is more important than what we do and if we get raped it’s our fault and if we get beaten we must have provoked it and if we raise our voices we’re nagging bitches and if we enjoy sex we’re nymphos and if we don’t we’re frigid and if we love women it’s because we can’t get a “real” man and if we ask our doctor too many questions we’re neurotic and/or pushy and if we expect childcare we’re selfish and if we stand up for our rights we’re aggressive and “unfeminine” and if we don’t we’re typical weak females and if we want to get married we’re out to trap a man and if we don’t we’re unnatural and because we still can’t get an adequate safe contraceptive but men can walk on the moon we can sure produce viagra for men who can't get it up (ed.) and if we can’t cope or we don’t want a pregnancy we’re made to feel guilty about abortion…and for lots and lots of other reasons I am part of the women’s liberation movement .

  • happyout

    As the mother of a little boy, I find it scary that the "heroes" in the media all seem to be excessively violent. I love when my son imitates his father, it shows me that he is choosing a good role model. I believe in same sex only schools, and I also believe in uniforms for school. I think both server to get the point across that a school is a place for education, and hopefully, this weeds out some of the petty greivances that come about due to differences in socio-economic circumstances. I want my son to be a MAN - strong, chivalrous, intelligent, independent, etc. and it's me and my husband's #1 job to see that he grows into that.


  • teenyuck

    Dan--No problem...I was hormonal this morning.

    Asleif--great quotes!!!

  • DanTheMan
    but girls should not be blamed if they do well and the boys don't.

    You are absolutely correct. My question is, has the public school environment become such that boys are increasingly marginalized? The article reveals some trends that I find disturbing.

  • asleif_dufansdottir
    My question is, has the public school environment become such that boys are increasingly marginalized?

    hmm...maybe, but I'd like to see research into causality. What if it's increase in watching TV and playing video games that is feeding into male problems with AD/HD or short attention span? What if it's a problem partially caused by general lack of respect for authority (reinforced by parents who take their kids side against teachers)? THere are many things it could be, that are not necessarily the fault of the school.

    There's a lot we don't know about how kids really learn. Don't forget, it's been only in the last 50 years or so that everybody in the US attends school (theoretically) into high school. My mom was the first in her family to even go to HS. More of the population is going to school longer (not just the high achievers), including those who would have dropped out much earlier due to lack of interest or aptitude. Now they're 'forced' to stay in.

    It's an incredibly complex situation.

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