Thanks everyone. Some well thought out help here and I appreciate it. I agree to the honesty thing and it is true that showing him that I want to find the truth should not be threatening to him. I am going to wait awhile like I said. I don't want to lose his friendship. We have alot of hurt to get past first.
sf, I put you on my friend list on yahoo and sent you a message. pimurs2playwith is my handle.
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