My Father in law (Robert Stillman) killed himself in 1993. After the "new light" came out in 1981 we could no longer have limited contact with dis-fellowedshipped persons. After years of being shunned by his only family he blow his brains out with a 38 special.
At the time of his death, the only thing Bob was doing that wasn’t in line with the Society’s rules and regulations was smoking. He wasn’t living in sin or doing any other type of gross immorality, but because he left the organization back in 1958, thirty-five years earlier, he could no longer have association with his children or grandchildren.
Yet my father, who left the organization back in 1961, was still smoking at the time of Bob's death. I’m sure my father was fornicating, stealing and just about anything else you can think of. Yet he could come up to visit his children and his grandchildren anytime he liked. How could that be? How could he do that? Because he was no longer dis-fellowshipped; he was reinstated back in 1965. However, after he was reinstated, he just dropped out for good, or “faded away” as the Witnesses like to call it nowadays.
Just one of the many loopholes and double standards that they don’t want you to know about.