Welcome northern star,
I know about your frustration. I have been an agnostic/atheist/deist for my entire adult life and most of my teenage years, but always interested in science, philosophy and history. For more than 20 years, however, I have been surrounded by JW's (wife, brothers, brothers and sister's in law, many friends). For decades I have lived and let lived, until I decided to do an in-depth research on JW's. That changed my attitude towards the religion completely., especially the leaders.
Perhaps, to avoid the frustration, you should approach your study as a psychologist with his/her patients. Guide them slowly to discover on their own the flaws of their beliefs and the deception, manipulation, and exploitation they live under.