You've done quite well, much better than many Jdubs once they leave. The key is really to try to get out there and get a bite of the world.
They're looking forward to the "new system" but they don't know they could have that joy and fellowship with their fellowman now
To me this is the key. They are simply letting their lives pass them by while they look ahead to a fairy tale that will never happen. How sad! I know several jdubs i grew up with, especially sisters, who have made the decision to not get married and have a life because they rather wait for the new system. Pretty sad, to postpone your life for no reason at all.