Boy, this is just so "on the money" that it hurts!!! My condolences.
Calling out the "concerned" question/interrogation is great!!! That "mirrors" or reverses the "guilt trip" crap (that you can see coming) right back onto them.
BTW, turning the tables and "hitting her up" for charity was a stroke of genius.
I just got a letter from my father. He has been harassing me with the "end is near", "go back to the KH" & "you won't get life" for 30 years. So, I told him off and quit talking to him.
Now, the letter has a opening page of PREACHING & PRYING; that is 2 of his 3 P's.
The second page tells me 1) how old he is, 2) about his property holdings, 3) I want to share this with you & 4) ta da!!!!: IF YOU TREAT ME RIGHT. That is the 3rd of his P's: PUSHING my buttons/me around.
So, I'm about to let him (and his friends/cronies/JW's buddies/accomplices) know that 1) I am fed up with this happy BS, 2) I have visited a few STALKING SUPPORT GROUPS, 3) he has crossed the line and violated California State Penal Codes, 4) if he is going to bequeath money, he or his estate should do it and SHUT UP, 5) if I owe him Money, he or his estate should sue me or SHUT UP and 6) if neither 4 or 5 apply, he should go away and SHUT UP.
Mutter, mutter, grumble, grumble...
So, I relate and commiserate, too. Go ahead and vent!!!
Harassment, Stalking, Undue Parental Influence, Right To Quiet Enjoyment, various Civil Rights too numerous to count & ad nauseum Class