David Bloom Dies (page 2)

Robdar

TeeJay,

I don't agree with your judgment of David. By making the judgment, you implied that he made the wrong decision. Just because you didn't state that what is right for you isn't right for others, you still implied that he did the wrong thing for his family. Just because I can't find this in your written post doesn't mean that you did not imply it. Get it? Now, will you get off my ass? I'm not here to play debate games with you. You were wrong and your bitching and picking apart sentences does not change that.

Robyn

SheilaM

All I said is that I personally feel that parents must taken into account what impact their actions will have on their children. I'm sorry

Teejay: Now this statement I agree with. I believe that we would have less problems if our kids really came first. Thunder and I stayed in the same home for our children, I didn't work until they were in school for my children and Thunder and I didn't go out partying every Friday and Saturday in fact Thunder never went 'out with the guys" because he wanted to be a good example for our kids and you know what Teejay hang in there cause IT DOES WORK!!! We have two great kids and a grandbaby that has two grandparents at their home to play and love her

teejay

Having a bad day, Robyn?

I made no “judgment” of David. I never said, implied, nor inferred that he was a bad person or father or that he made the “wrong” decision. All I said was that, in his shoes, I would not have made the decision to leave my family like he did. That’s all.

Further, I bet if it were possible to ask HIM, he’d say that he’d likely make a different decision if he knew the last time he saw his daughters was the last time he’d see them.

Thunder and I stayed in the same home for our children, I didn't work until they were in school for my children and Thunder and I didn't go out partying every Friday and Saturday in fact Thunder never went 'out with the guys" because he wanted to be a good example for our kids...

Now, Sheila,

Are you saying that parents that go out every Friday and Saturday nights are “bad” parents? Of course not! Yo u’r e simply stating what YOUR AND THUNDER’S decision was and the reasons for it—that parent’s have to take into account the ways their actions will impact the lives of their children. It’s called “sacrifice.”

Thanks. That’s all I was saying.

SheilaM

Your welcome.....You know I don't look at it as "sacrafice" I guess I don't feel I missed a thing ya know and the rewards watching my kids, knowing they are GOOD kids and watching my daughter with her baby is just the BEST that I can think that life has to offer.

I can remember having a conversation with a workfriend I was bemoaning my fate at not "achieving my goals" I was 28 or so and he looked at me and said "You know Sheila I've known you a long time and all I have ever heard you REALLY say was important to you was being a wife and Mom, so I think you achieved your goals" Sometimes our prespective is just a lil off LOL

teejay

Thanks, again, for your kind remarks, Sheila.

For what it’s worth, it just dawned on me, here in the late-night hour, that I’m mad at David for leaving his daughters because my father didn’t put up a fight for me and stick around for us. He went off in search of his own dream, never seeming to think about us. Forty-freakin years ago. You'd think I'd be over it by now.

Weird how the mind works.

Robdar

TeeJay,

I call you out, so I must be having a bad day? Puhleeze. Judging from your behavior on other boards, you must be having a bad day everyday. Here is what you said:

They WILLINGLY AND WILLFULLY leave their (in David's case) three beautiful daughters behind and put themselves in danger of not going back home. For what? For TV time and career advancement.

I think that when you have children a parent's priorities should change. I thought it a bit laughable when they said on the Today show how much he put his family first. Oh really? By leaving your family for weeks on end and traveling to the other side of the world and volunteering to go to war.

When children bless the union, IMO parent's have to step back from their dreams and shift their focus. No matter how strongly their were pursuing their life's ambition, they must now always consider how their decisions will impact the first 18 years of their children's life. Now David's children stand the chance of being raised without the influence of a father -- all because their father was doing something that others could have done just as easily. Sad.

You made a judgement. And not a very kind one. As a matter of fact, you came across as very self righteous regarding David and in your response to Teenyuck. You compared David to yourself and decided that David's parenting skills were lacking compared to yours. I called you on it. And I stand by what I said to you. Now then, think what you want to about what sort of day I was having.

Robyn

teejay

Judging from your behavior on other boards, you must be having a bad day everyday.

What are you talking about, Robyn?

You made a judgement. And not a very kind one. As a matter of fact, you came across as very self righteous regarding David and in your response to Teenyuck. You compared David to yourself and decided that David's parenting skills were lacking compared to yours. I called you on it.

Think whatever you want, Robyn. I still believe that parents oughta think about their kids more than their career.

Shakita

My thoughts for all they are worth.......

I gave birth to four of the most beautiful babies in the world. Of course, I am prejudiced. Before having my first baby, I had a very good job with great potential for advancement. But, when I set my eyes on that gorgeous baby, I knew that I couldn't leave him for 8 or 9 hours a day in someone else's hands. So, I changed my priorities. I have never regretted it. Sure, maybe life would have been different and we would be monetarily more well off then we are now, but no amount of money or possessions can replace the precious moments shared when seeing those first steps, or singing them to sleep before their naps. I chose this path and look back with great satisfaction at the great people who I am proud to call my children.

But, that doesn't mean that women or men who choose to have a career put their children second. I know a woman who is vice president of her company and has 3 small children. She is a great Mom and those kids adore her. The kids know that Mommy works and that she has provided great care for them during the day and makes sure that they are taken care of and loved. These kids are being brought up differently from my kids, but that doesn't mean that one way is better than the other. As long as the kids are loved and cared for, they will thrive.

David Bloom obviously loved his family. He also had a successful career. You can have both.

It is still hard to believe he is gone. So young, only 39. A family member of ours has a brain tumor that will be succeeding in taking his life soon. He is only 30. Life really sucks sometimes. Where is a miracle when you really need one?

Mrs. Shakita

Robdar

TeeJay,

That's cool. See you here and elsewhere.

Life really sucks sometimes. Where is a miracle when you really need one?

(((((((((((Mrs Shakita)))))))))))))

I am so sad to hear about your family member.

Love,

Robyn

teejay

Thank you for your comments, Shakita. So sorry to hear about your family member's terminal illness. Not only that but your entire post helps put things into perspective.

I apologize to those who were offended by what I said about David. If you think it was a display of self-righteousness, then I’m sorry. I never thought nor meant to imply that I am a better parent than David or ANYONE. We all have to make choices when it comes time to juggle job/career on one hand and family on the other.

David isn’t the only (or even first) American journalist to die in Iraq. Michael Kelly and a soldier were killed Thursday night when a Humvee they were in drove off the road into a canal. Michael was 46 (one year older than me) and has two sons – age 6 and 3 (my daughter is also 3). When I saw that news report about Michael, I got a huge lump in my throat. I thought of being over there and my daughter being here at home without her father. I would see myself as a huge failure as a father if I had been in Michael’s shoes. That’s all I meant about everything I’ve said here. I did not mean to offend anyone.

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