My brother (who is a witness) has been married for 8 years. He and his wife (also a witness) got married young, but he never really tried in the marriage, but she also lost his trust early on. He says that it was his fault though because he pushed her away.
Anyways, he met this new girl (not a witness) and told his wife that he wanted to separate. Now, this separation was not because of the girl, but because he was no longer happy with his wife. The two just happened to happen at the same time. During this time of separation, my brother and the new girl committed adultery. My brother was the df and he continued to see this girl.
He told me that he purposely committed adultery with the girl hoping that his wife would want to leave him, but she did not. This also put the girl in a difficult situation.
He and his wife then filed for divorce, but she is still willing and wanting to take him back. His religious morals finally began to catch up to him and he is now at a crossroads. He wants to go back to his wife because of what the Bible says about marriage. As I mentioned earlier, he never truly tried in the marriage because she lost his trust early on (she shared her feelings with another man). He told me that he truly wants to be happy with this new girl. He told me that he wants to marry the new girl. In addition, because of my brother, he says that the new girl has started studying the Bible and does have a genuine interest in becoming a witness. Because of this, they have stopped committing adultery.
I am curious that if he chooses the girl, how would that play out in the eyes of Jehovah?
1) It says that He hates divorce unless on the grounds of adultery. (Matthew 19:9)
2) Would it be considered a deceitful divorce because my brother is leaving his wife with the motive of marrying this girl? (Malachi 2:13-16, Mark 10:9)?
Not to mention, my brother wants to be reinstated as quickly as possible, however, he obviously does not regret what he did, or else he would still be associated right now.
The moral of the story, he and the new girl are still seeing each other, but she is studying and he is also working on building a closer relationship with Jehovah. Although the wife would prefer not to lose her husband, she told me that once the divorce is final, she would not care if he remarried and wouldn't be mad. She would actually be as supportive as she could given the circumstances (but she would move on from him). The only person she does not want him to marry is the girl he committed adultery with. Now, as I said earlier, my brother is at a crossroads because he obviously wants to be with the girl, but wants to do right by Jehovah.
What are the chances he could get reinstated and marry the new girl? If the girl decides to become a witness, would she have trouble with her baptism because of this?
Opinions?