To help me move on after leaving the Org and to maintain my sanity, I
have worked on not regretting the time I spent in it. Granted, I have
only been out 6 years and was 22 when I left, I still was an active JW
from age 16-22. Those were prime times of my youth that I will never get
back. I wanted to play high school football and basketball but
couldn't. I wanted to go to college after HS but felt the pressure to
pioneer. I am still in my twenties but I still wish I could go back to
those years and do them over. Oh well. I have just tried to view it all
as a learning experience and helped me be who I am now. Does anyone else
regret joining the Org or do you think it helped you become the person
you are today?
I was born in, so in my case I find comfort in the fact that I didn't choose to join that filthy organization. However, at one point I did have to deal with the anger. For years after I left I felt happy to catch up with all I was missing, but at some point I did have to properly deal with the anger caused by the damage that the WT inflicted in me.
I realized that there are healthy, proper ways of acknowledging the anger and that I owe no loyalty, not even respect to that organization. Then, and only then was when I really started feeling detached from that organization. I mourned the losses in my life that the WT purposely and ill-ntendedly created, and understood the fact they they have absolutely no authority and no saying in my life.
Today I already have a life and a history and the WT is a small part of my life. It's never going to be eliminated from my history, but it's the most irrelevant thing in my life.