This is totally non-JW related, but I have a close friend who is in turmoil at the moment and there are lots of great people here who are good with advice so any help would be appreciated.
My friend, who Ill refer to as Katie has just found out some shocking info about her past. Katies mum has been an alcoholic for about 15 years. Her mum is also very mentally unstable and has had numerous breakdowns. Katies mum has been a pretty bad mother all in all. You may justify it by saying that Katies mum has an illness but ill or not, she has made Katies life an utter misery. Katie has tried on many occasions to help her mum and build bridges, but within weeks of any reconciliation, Katies mum reverts to type and continues to emotionally abuse her daughter. Katie, by the way, is in her early 30s.
Katies mum says that she was sexually abused by her father as a child and through her teen years. Katie has known about this for many years, and has found it hard to accept because as a child herself, Katie was often sent to stay with her grandfather and he was always in her life up until his death around 20 years ago. Katie wonders why, if her grandfather had abused and raped her mother, would her mother put Katie in the care of this man. As a mother herself, Katie knows that she would never put her own children in such a dangerous position and cant forgive her mother. But Katie has never said this to her mother because she doesnt want to make a bad situation worse.
Katies mum became pregnant with Katie at 19. Katies father was a married man who conveniently went back to his wife and has never seen Katie, although he does know about her. This was the story Katie was told. But she has just found out that her mother has told a close family member that the man she thought was her father actually isnt, and Katie is in fact the result of her grandfather raping her mother. Katies mother is now denying this, and sticking to the original story of the married man being Katies father.
She does know that this man thought Katie was his child. But she also knows that she was born 2 months prematurely and she now wonders whether she was premature, or is this part of the cover up, to tie in dates to make the married man appear to be her father.
She has no way of contacting the married man, her grandfather is dead and her mother is denying ever telling anyone that Katies grandfather is also her father. Katie really wants to find the truth, but how can she?
Does she have any legal rights with this? Could her grandfathers medical records be produced to check blood types? I dont see how DNA could be used when neither of the men in the frame are around. Does she have to worry about any genetic issues? If her grandfather is also her father, does she have any health risks? Or do Katies children?
Sorry this is so long but any thoughts would be appreciated .