My life was ruined because I was poor.
My life was ruined because I was a woman.
My life was ruined because I was abused.
My life was ruined because I was JW.
These statements are only true if I were DEAD and my life were really over.
My life is today and all your tomorrows that spread out before me.
Somewhat philosophical, but the only thinking that will stop the rest of my life from being ruined by me.
I was so much happier after I no longer let my family manipulate me emotionally. And believe me, JW family members do not control the market on emotional blackmail. JWs do it under the guise of having God's backing but you can clear that up by having true accurate knowledge of the Bible.
So I stopped being a victim. If that means I lost contact with family members and "friends," rest assured they were not healthy to be around. I learned to love myself and found real friends. And realize that family is more than sharing DNA.
Edited by - Blondie on 5 October 2002 23:58:8