Crossing Over

by kelsey007 5 Replies latest jw friends

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  kelsey007

  Anger, hate and venting are parts of normal human emotion. These are feelings that most all of us have experienced after having left the JWs. Such forums as this one I am sure have helped many to cross over to getting beyond the jw experience. Some I would hope have had understading friends and relatives who have allowed us to vent our emotions and help us release the pain we have inside.

  The terrible acts of child abuse that has beceme well known on these forums has brought much of this pain, hurt and anger again to the fore. With the many years in the oraganization most lost family members and friend not to mention an entire way of life when we left the organization. This to me seems sometimes worse than having lost loved ones to death.

  My question here is: What is the best way in dealing with the abuse issues we are hearing about so much here? What is the most effective way to force a change that will protect ALL children from exposure to preditors? Will getting in the face of the JW leaders have the positive impact we are hoping for? And if it did force a change at the WT in policy what of the millions of other abuse victims in other religions around the globe?
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  Perry

  I don't know. I don't think that getting in the right faces can hurt though. I admire those that do something about the injustices of the Tower. I always feel like a blithering idiot when I lose my cool. Personally, I greatly fear that I would lose my cool with any kind of confrontation. I wonder if others feel the same way?

  Concerning the anger, hate and venting, I am even less sure. I have never been so angry over something in all my life. When I finally realized that my family are mere WT drones incapapable of love and reduced to repeating WT dogma by rote, it is almost more than I can bear. The realization that your entire life was an illusion is almost more than I can bear at times. I know I drive my poor girlfriend crazy and I do apologize to her for it.

  I hear stories about people getting better by sharing their thoughts on this forum. I have noticed that the ones who seem to move on the quickest and get better are those that have at least one loved one that is non-JW. Some don't have that priveledge. Personally I struggle with what love is and how trust is played out in a life. When all your life all you have ever known is that love and trust are contingent on what some idiot writes in a magazine, how can a person learn it for himself when they have never expereienced it, or at least never allowed themselves to experience it?

  If I called my mother, she would immediately start talking about field service, assemblies, and personal study from the publications. What kind of sharing and bonding is that? How can you talk to people you really love whan all you want to do is help in anyway possible to destroy a lying, greedy abusive organization that dominates their almost every thought?

  I know this is your thread and I didn't mean to hijack it. It's just that your thoughts so closely mirrored mine that I just needed to respond and ask a few more questions. Will there ever be an end to the pain?
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  kelsey007

  Perry- you did not highjack a thread.

  As for getting rid of the pain. I think that we will die with the pain. Getting beyond the pain is another issue. To me nothing positive is accomplished when acted out in anger and hate. The org took many good years from my life. Like many I had daydreams of doing ugly things to the org. Finally I got beyond those thoughts. I no konger dwell on the wasted years- it no longer consumes me. By getting to that point I feel no longer controlled by the WT. As long as I allowed it to linger the WT still was taking joy from my life.

  I, like you, have no problem with marches and media attention directed to the WT and the GB. Hey. speak out. But on the other hand, IF my real objective is to aid victims and force positive change then I must get beyond the hate to be effective. That is my only point.
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  kenpodragon

  Focus on changing the laws to favor the people and not the religions. Put a "watchdog" organization in place that looks after children, when related to all religions. Also, start a legal fund for victims with packets on what changes need to be made in there local area. Focusing on only one religion is looking at a large problem with select blinders. Child abuse in the name of god is a huge problem, that needs as much support as can gather.

  My thought

  Dragon

  "Help all the children"
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  kelsey007

  Thanks dragon, that is one of my points. The other point is: For positive results- Don't use anger and hate to motivate....
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  Lady Lee

  ....strength of charachter, honest and courage work much better