Hi Onacruise,
I totally can identify with everything you said. Starting new relationships is very difficult. The biggest concern of course is always that when you meet someone who you think could be "the one" there's a little fear involved because you can't predict in the long run, how "true" the other person will be to you.
Feelings are fragile.
Ideally, you want to find a person who won't betray your trust and who will love you back in return. This is easy to say. Women and men who have ever felt neglected or rejected in a relationship where they gave their heart to someone, only to have it trampled on-- can attest to the very real "FEAR" that is involved.
I don't believe in....
Casual romantic insinuations either thru e-mail, or IM
People are not Toys, we all have feelings. A cyber KISS or XOXOXOX or such "sweet talk" can be interpreted to mean more than a "friendly affection." Nothing beats meeting someone in person and developing a relationship that will hopefully grow. Obsessing over cyber "relationships" that cannot be or that are only for "passing time" is CRUEL....
In addition..
whoever has a "real" relationship...really is being dishonest if they persist in having "romantic" themed IM or e-mails from someone of the opposite sex just to boost their ego or because it feeds some weird desire to manipulate others... It is a debased and very low type of "pass time."
Just to be on the safe side, right now,
my heart is mine only... I won't give it away.... It's safe within me....
YoursChelbie