I feel a little guilty about this, because I know that so many of you have lost contact with your families, but I thought you might find it interesting that my mother has told me, via my father, that she won't shun me even if I'm DF (which is a very real possibility). I'm not coming out unscathed (does anybody?) since my marriage is set to end in the next couple of weeks, but I'm so grateful that I'll still have my mom.
I told the elders that I didn't believe in the WT's teachings anymore and they told me I'd be DF. That was the last straw in a series of efforts at coming to some kind of agreement with my wife over a four year period. I've been living on my own for over six months and she'e been back with her folks in another state. Everyone back in my hometown thinks I'm DF, which is a little strange. The hardest part about the breakup and admitting to the elders that I didn't believe in it anymore was worrying what my mom would think. I'm a real momma's boy and she's the sweetest, gentlest soul you'd ever hope to meet. As the title of the thread suggests, she seems to not be able to shun me. My dad says that she commented to him that family comes first! He seems to be thinking something like, "Duh, of course family comes first", but I've had to explain to him that it was far from a foregone conclusion. So I'm batting .500, my mom's with me, my wife's gone. If I had to lose one, I'd have picked it this way, hope that doesn't sound too hard-hearted of me.