A simple point but well worth repeating is that just as it took
many gradual steps to 'come in the truth', so also it takes many
gradual adjustments to leave it!
Thus, if you care for your relatives/friends in a loving way,
you will have to get them gradually accustomed to your new found
freedom. Angry, embittered comments about how horrid the organization
is are unlikely to attract anyone - except those who already
recognize that reality! A few other suggestions:
1) Make a happy success of your life and show it! Jehovah's Witnesses
tend to LOVE FAILURE and be jealous of SUCCESS. Thru years as an
elder, I've been shocked by the glee many Witnesses feel when
Brother Dictionary mispronounces a word or Brother Elder's kid
gets df'd. Outside the organization, I don't have to tell you
that they also revel in any disaster that justifies their negative
view of other people and the world ("Boy, the End is really close,
If you hold your head high, get a decent education, and evince
every sign of happiness and success - while discreetly ignoring
whatever bilge the Watchtower vomits up - you may get them to
change without debates that force them into defensiveness.
2) Never DA yourself or actually seek to be DF'd. Don't play their
game - and if you are DF'd, don't cooperate in any way by
following THEIR rules. Grab a sandwich and sit next to them
deliberately at work/school - if they have to leave, that's
their problem. Get in their face and actively seek their
If you show up one in a while at the local Kingdom Hall, looking
happy, healthy and successful, you'll accomplish far more
subtle damage than any shock of being df'd.
3) Develop an effective 'story' - tell your friends how sad it is
that the Society is downsizing. Try " in ten years, Witnesses
won't be any different from any other religion" or "I'm too
busy going to college"
Imagine the Watchtower trying to print "We're Not Mainstreaming!"
or "No, We're Not Downsizing"
Gradualism works - and it scares them BECAUSE ALL YOU HAVE TO
CHANGE IS A PERCEPTION. Once that PERCEPTION becomes 'JW's are
becoming the same as anybody else', it's game over.