by minimus 15 Replies latest jw friends
They always made me feel bad about myself, that I was a charity case and "spiritually weak". The elders never came around and complimented me when I was doing well, it was always when there was a perceived problem, or to put me in the pioneer assist program (another way to make me feel like I was low status).
I was never encouraged.
CHG
Many of the people we would visit would bake cookies, cake or some dessert for us. I always tried to encourage people and that way I knew I might be able to get another goody if we went back.
Minimus:
(I think you have two exact same threads, by the way!)
the other one:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/280897/1/How-Did-Shepherding-Calls-Go-For-You
No shepherding calls for me. I moved to the other end of the country. One sister, to whom I had been very close, sent me a hate letter. Later on, I went back to the town where my congregation was. I didn't get shepherding calls, but harassing phone calls. Good! Woke me up!
In all my time as a JW (almost 40 years) I can recall three shepherding visits:
1. To discuss my questionable choice of music and my attending a hard-rock concert and subsequently deleting me.
2. To instruct us to keep our child quiet at meetings and instruct us to not spare the rod - we told the elders to leave.
3. During our fade to understand why our meeting attendance was minimal and why we had become inactive.
There were kind and loving elders, but as we were generally the average family without problems, I understood that they had their busy lives.
The Ipad is the problem! I double clicked a new thread twice by mistake. (Sorry about the duplicate thread).
