Do you still keep in touch with the Witnesses?

by Iamallcool 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • krejames
    krejames

    I couple of older sisters in my cong write to me now and again with news and to invite me to eat out with them etc. I don't reply because, although I think it's really sweet of them, I actually think it's important to keep my distance given my situation. My best "friend" in the congregation who stuck by me during my first fade, stopped socialising with me when she realised I was in a gay relationship. She just sends a text once in a blue moon "to check I'm ok" (I find this quite patronising and offensive actually, given that she used to be at my place all the time). I think the elders might have finally given up trying to contact me as it's been a while. So the only JWs I'm still in touch with now are my immediate family.

  • transhuman68
    transhuman68

    I'm only in contact with my JW mum & sister really, and they don't talk about the religion much anymore, so I just get the 'hot goss' about the people in the cong- although, after 25 years, its mainly news of who has died. Other than that, I'm in a Witness-free zone.

  • new hope and happiness
    new hope and happiness

    I feel that it would be impossible to maintain the same strong relationships, and understandably so the foundation for the friendship have changed tramatically. But if i need maintance work carried out i always use my witness friends and the conversations are pleasent and religion is avoided. ( i am not disfellowshipped but i wear a gold necklace with 3 crosses, which surprisongly hasnt botherd them. Wierd as an athiest it doesnt bother me wearing it either)

    I should add that i wouldnt risk the above illustration with an elder.

  • Zoos
    Zoos

    Friendships require something in common. There's nothing back there for me to pursue.

  • franticfran
    franticfran

    Thats the wrong question, it should read,do THEY keep in touch with us? I think we all know the answer to that one.

  • Pistoff
    Pistoff

    It is very hard to be around witnesses; if you have faded, they seem to be always looking for reassurance that you still believe.

    I love the people I grew up with, though; it is really hard to be around them too, as I am reminded that the religion is a fake but the relationships are real.

  • Phaedra
    Phaedra

    I do. With family in and all...

    Phae

  • blondie
    blondie

    No, but if I run into one, we chat briefly but if the first thing they say is they miss me at the meetings, then I say, "been 12 years and not a call from you or a card. Sounds like you are lying to yourself."

    Mostly it's hi and goodbye.

    But I always wave.........

  • designs
    designs

    Actually had a 'visit' from two Elders a couple of weeks ago (after being gone for 14 years). 20 minutes of listening to the latest news on the Org's. building plans ( he has a son and daughter in law at Bethel) and then it was goodbye.

  • blondie
    blondie

    designs, no interest in what's been happening in your family and with you, in general?

    That proves it, it's god's organization because they are building things. It wasn't god's nation until they built the temple, eh?

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