Story of a friend that woke up.

by Crazyguy 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • Crazyguy
    Crazyguy

    Its kinda funny that about a year ago this friend went to my elders and turned me in for asking and maybe stating a few things to him that I guess made him feel unconfertable. But over this same time his mate was sleeping around and he has been in the truff for 55 years roughly, born-in. We continued to work together and I keep my mouth shut. So what helped to wake him up?? The elders and friends in his hall of 20 years. He confided in me that after his wifes affairs were outed and then she sumarilly DF'd that he wasnt in the state of mind to go to meetings and out in service. So where were his friends and elders in all this? Not around and not incuraging, instead one elder asked "what did you do?". Friends and others nothing. So he finally broke, told me that he gave all these years to the Org, meetings, service, and extra stuff, shunned his kids since they did'nt become JW's and all for what? Even his wife being Df'd, he said it was just bam you did something wrong your DF'd that quick. No love, no really friends, wasted years not seeing family, All For What???

    Just thought I would share.

  • Oubliette
    Oubliette

    That's a rude awakening for your friend, but at least he woke up!

  • LoisLane looking for Superman
    LoisLane looking for Superman

    Your friend's story is heartbreaking.

    (((Hugs))) to him.

    Does he know how to post?

    I hope he is OK and not too depressed that it leads to suicide.

    Once you understand TTATT you realize the WT made you live an isolated lifestyle, to better control you and fleece your time, and your pockets.

    Freedom is not all that appreciated until you comprehend what it almost cost you.

    Yaaay for Freedom!

    LoisLane

  • Band on the Run
    Band on the Run

    It is great that you are not relishing his fall. Did his wife leave him?

  • Iown Mylife
    Iown Mylife

    Blame the victim. I think most elders individually and as a group, just get mad when anyone's sorrow isn't magically mitigated by applying their recipe of studyservicemeetingsprayer. They get mad when people need emotional help because they don't know what to do. They want you to pretend you're okay. In addition to all the other pretending involved in being a jw.

    Marina

  • cultBgone
    cultBgone

    Crazyguy, please communicate our love and (((hugs))) to your friend. He obviously outed you thinking he was doing the right thing and it's really sad that his marriage is toast, but we know that he's suffering and everyone on this site is compassionate toward him. Please be sure he knows how to login and meet all of us who understand the pain.

  • joe134cd
    joe134cd

    I find myself saying this at least a couple of times a week.

    "Its just blows my mind how an organisation is prepared to spend billions of dollars and man hours trying to find a new recruit, and yet will do virtually nothing (except an obligation free disfellowship), to care for and retain that recruit."

    i can give you a very good example like the one you just described. There was an elder sister who had died in the cong I attended, and it wasn't until I found her name on a list and enquired of her that I found she had died. Ok she wasn't a publisher but went to the meetings. I remember at the time putting it down to been in a big congregation. But now that I look back on it I seriously have to ask how I could not have known, and I was very active at the time. I have known of sick elderly ones who no one has visited. I'm glad walked on that loveless organisation.

  • Crazyguy
    Crazyguy

    Just an update; my friend had his CO this week and went to a midweek meeting, their the CO told the congregation "that if the ones had concerns or issues he didn't want to hear about" its just pretty much, shut up, do as your told and be blessed. Wow their getting blunt!!!

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