Sorry, I didn't mean to start a new thread, but I started a new post by mistake, so here it is anyway. This is my comment to Cello. Sorry folks.
I don't mean to pick on you, but I have to say that when someone experiences love, they know what they experience. It is not an equation that you can work out in your head. It is something that hits you like a ton of bricks, and you have no choice in the matter. It is not a matter of choice, or attention or anything else. It is something that hits you like a bolt of ligtning out of a clear blue sky. You have no idea where it came from or why. It just happens. Love is one life's mysteries. You can't analyze it, and you can't explain it. It just happens. For some people, like lightning, it never strikes. For others, like lightning, it strikes several times.