Do what works for you Gojira! Different strokes for different folks.
“There is never a successful fade because to me even if you fade, you are still tied to WT, and WT then will still have some control over you.”
Honestly, I think fading is about attitude!
There are so many successful fader stories on JWN that it encouraged me to fade instead of DA/DF. I will not give them the power to read my name out in the KH and label me, period! Took me a while to grasp that concept because my brain was fried from escaping, but I realized it meant I had the control.
I have been fading for about 5 years… actively for 2. One day I won’t be a fader…it could happen any day that I am just some regular person. There are times when I feel like I quit the organization cold turkey. Was there one day and next: POOF! Gone. The only ties I have are the family members and a few friends who STILL talk to me. The WTBS no longer has control over me, because I chose not to give it to them. I have treated this whole event as if it’s no big deal. You can leave and never look back. I still have elders who are friends call to check on me. I no longer communicate with them. I also made a clear statement to one of them that I was going to live my life the way I choose and “you guys” need to leave me alone. They know I am no longer a part of that.
I am living my life doing what I want… openly…slowly allowing my family/friends to get used to this new reality. I don’t bother those people and they don’t bother me. If ever they chose to interfere in MY LIFE, I already know I will blast their a**es to Kingdom Come. The WTBS only has as much control as you give them.
Unless you plan on pulling a “Ray Publisher” and you want to show them how inept they are, and you control that scenario by all means, DA.
I say if you DA, go out with a bang, baby! Make it big!!!