I don't know if any of you really want to hear this, so if not please stop reading here.
I told a few of you about a guy I have been seeing for the past few months. Well, I found out that he has been seeing other women, and I spoke to him last night and tried to break it off with him. He didn’t want to hear it. He said that I was one of the best women he has ever met. Said I was kind hearted, loving, had a great sense of humor and was always well groomed when he saw me.
It is hard for me to say no, so I let it go for the moment, but when I got home, I really sat down and thought about it. I realized that this is why I have been used all my life. I settle. Well, not anymore!
I wrote him a letter. This is what I wrote. Please let me know if I said things in the best way possible?
Dear *****,
I’ve really put a lot of thought into this so please hear me out, and please do not feel that I am putting you down in any way. I just feel this is best for both of us.
I understand that you are recently single and wish to retain your
Freedom. I respect that, if that is what you wish.
On the other hand, I would hope that you would also extend the same to me. I have been single for two years. No dating or anything. My reason being, I wasn’t ready for a relationship. I am now, and it would not be fare for me to try in anyway to push you to make a decision.
*****, one thing you need to know about me. when I fall in love, I give 110% of myself. I expect nothing less in return. My only problem in the past is that I didn’t think enough of myself and let men walk all over me. I took two years off from dating to do a bit of soul searching and discovered that I am worth it. If a man can not see that, he doesn’t deserve me anyway.
*****, I do have strong feelings for you but, if I continue seeing you. I will be in danger of losing my heart to you, and that is when I will end up being hurt, because you are not ready for a relationship with just one woman, and I am not willing to share.
*****, I may not be “in” love with you, but I do love you enough to let go. I know in my heart that this is the right thing to do. I would hope though that we can remain friends. I would like that.
Be happy *****, in whatever you do.
Shari
I don't want someone in my life I can live with. I want someone in my life I can't live without.