I am unsure of your home situation. Are you a JW? Were you ever a JW?
I would be straight and honest.
Sit down with your wife and say I want to discuss the upbringing of our children and what they deem right and wrong. Ask, is it right that you want them to live according to what Jehovah says is right and wrong?
When she says yes... ask if this is negotiable ?
Her face at this point will drop in confusion..
Then ask her if you can explain.....
Hopefully she will say yes.
Then get your bible....
For each relevant verse, first ask your wife " Do you think we should teach our children that slavery/genocide/rape is good or bad?"
Isaiah 13: 9, 15,16
1 Samuel 15:2-3
Colossians 3:22 Ephesians 6:5 1 Timothy 6:1-2 (Slavery is also not condemned in New Testament)
1 Kings 13: 1&2
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (relates to rape)
2 Samuel 12: 13, 14, 18
2 Kings 2:23-24
Leviticus 26:3,4,9, 18-22
Joshua 8 : 18-27
If she says, that this was the old testament, first ask if that changes what Jehovah thought was right and then read the bible verse that says Jehovah never changes. Also note the verses above in the NT.
Then I would ask if it would be better if you raised your children on what both you and her felt were moral today in 2012, as you do not agree with the actions ordered or commanded by god in the above verses. How can you do this? Well the 'golden rule' of treating others how you want to be treated only works if you ae a good person. Hitlers idea of how to be treated and treat others is not the same as Ghandi's.
So how about just being a good person, in that you dont hurt or cause harm to others, work hard and and try to contribute to humanity. It is that easy.
I would 100% do this. I have done this myself with my family, hence I have the list. However.. as sure as I am that you agree with what I am saying, I understand that not everyone would be so straight for fear of reprisal etc. It is difficult with a wife. But for me personally, I could not have my children being brought up on lies and the 'morals' of the bible. No way !
All the best mate, I really feel for you.
Ps..... Also negotiate an agreement that your kids dont say " flush this sh*t" not because Jah-hoo-ha doesnt like it, but because Mummy and Daddy says it is not nice and not allowed to be said in the house. This respects everyone's point of view and still allows rules in the house with authority. If you dont have a problem with them saying "terd" then this is an issue between you and your wife, not the bible.