Well done matey X I remember stopping, what a relief!
Do you mind if I make a few points? I hope not, I am doing it for your consideration as a fellow ex pioneer lol
You said "but making it sound acceptable to the elders." why do you need to do this? Do any of them care how their life decisions look to you? Do any of these men pioneer? Do they work full time? Do they have a nice car, a good job?
Look after your dad and his business and look forward to a bright future! The quicker you leave the house of cards behind, the better for you and your family buddy x
Mamba