I've been reading a lot of the posts and agonizing with/for folks who are trying to fade or come out of the WTBS. There seems to be this recurring theme of family still in, trying to keep from losing them.
This seems almost universal no matter the group. Either you are one of us, or you are not. You are either in or out. You are with us or against us. There is no middle ground whatsoever. Bonds are formed in the context of the group first. They may go deeper depending on the nature and personalities of the participants.
What seems to end up happening is that maintaining relationships after a person leaves is a herculean task. The pain, fear and sense of betrayal felt by the insiders makes it easier to see the person who leaves as already dead. At least they can mourn and get on with their lives in hopes that their loved one will experience a spiritual resurrection.
I wonder how much difference it makes if the relationship is loving and fairly equal before the fader begins their exit? If the family members who refuse to consider the logic behind the faders actions, can they continue to still have a tolerant loving relationship and if yes, how would that be accomplished? What would be the necessary elements?