This is a very long story-Probably requires at least 2 threads, But I'll try:
My 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia. I am her only child. Why she is destitute is a separate thread. She didn't let me know until it was too late to keep her from giving her last $ to the WT$. My hubby and I took her in to live with us when she became broke, even though she was rude and hurtful to both of us. She only stayed with us a short time but I assure you it was HELL!She stayed with several different friends and family after she left our place in a huff. (I would have NEVER kicked her out) Each time she was asked to leave after only 6 weeks.
We then set up living arrangements for her at the nicest assisted living home in her hometown. (6 hrs from us) Two of her brothers were also living there and she had friends and other family nearby. She Literally kicked and screamed when we took her there but soon she grew to like it. It cost hubby and me $2400.00 a month. After 2 years of this added expense WE were now completely broke ourselves. At this point we had no choice but to get her government assistance. Hubby did this for me since I was a basket case at this point. We were still active JWs at this time but were being treated like lepers. (still another thread). I got a call from a sister saying that my mom was telling friends and family that I had taken ALL HER MONEY!!! Meanwhile all her family start shunning me WHILE I WAS STILL ACTIVE. I was crushed and hubby was furious. Meanwhile, one of her bros died and the other is very ill.
Last year mom had a stroke and was hospatalized and not expected to recover. She did though and was put in a different home as she needed much more assistance. In time she got well enough to be "aggressive" and put in still another facility. None of this was with our knowledge or consent. A couple of months ago Social Securiy informs us that her benefits had been cut partly because she was living at home. WHAAAAT??? She had been passed (dumped) from 3 places but never was at home. At the same time, the newest facility e-mailed us saying she is on a hunger strike and at the rate she was loosing weight she only had a few months to live. Meanwhile, there is another death in the family, I hear about it in an e-mail from a witness in their hall. My health declines, I have to have surgury, we mentally exit the cult, our house is in forclosure,Hubby trying to start new business, and today we awake to a curt message from the only sibling of moms who is of sound mind.
He says "When are you going to take care of your mothers needs. You have failed to fill out her paperwork properly and now the rest home is going to put her in the street. Is that what you want?" He doesn't know or care how we are and didn't ask. Before we could process that, hubby reads me TODAYS e-mail from the home saying we owe them $24,000.00 for only 4 months care. They accused us of embezzeling her social security money and said they have already turned us in to the authorities.
I'm now quite literally crying in my beer. Sorry for the length but I simply don't have a friend in this world-except you and I realize I don't even know you or visa versa.