This is a question I have asked repeatedly from the elders in my hall and even from Bethel and have never received an answer. I know this post is long but it is still a valid question so stay with me if you wish.
Let me explain what I mean. If a person were to have been put in prison for drank driving in which someone was killed or seriously injured and then while that person was in prison he or she learned the "truth" if then when released from prison this person started to attend a local congregation would the elders try to push it under the rug like they do child molesters. We have a prison where I live that has a high number of child molesters and the elder do try to hide their pasts when they come out would the same be for alcoholics?
What would happen to that alcoholic if he or she bought a liquor store and moved into it, came to every meeting with a bottle of booze in his pocket where you could clearly see it. Would that person be used in the hall? Would they be allowed to run the mikes, or hand out magazines? Would they be allowed to pioneer? Would they even be allowed to go out in service with their bottle or booze? Would the elders try push it under the rug? If this person were to move to another congregation would they not send any cards on his or her past hoping it would just die away?
This is what happens to pedophiles. We had one pedophile move into the hall I was in that I just happened to know by chance that he was a child molester. The former hall did not send any records on him for over three months. This pedophile learned the "truth" while he was in prison and as soon as he got released he found a woman in the "truth" to marry him who had a little girl. So he was living in a house with the drug of his choose a child. This wife number 2 pioneered while they were married so he appeared to be a happily married man in good standing in the hall. This marriage ended in a divorce and then this pedophile brother was able to find plenty of other JW women to marry him with you guessed it little girls. He was engaged at least to two other JW women before settling on one with a little girl and they had a child together you guessed it a little girl. This women also pioneered so again he looked at a happy family man in good standing in the religion.
I run into him shortly after we had come back from Bethel at an assembly and he came running up to my husband and I with his bio child in his arms, his stepdaughter by the hand and two other little girls all under the age of nine. It was like he was flaunting it to me as he seemed very proud of himself with all those little girls around him. He knew I totally knew of his past. I was sick and just walked away. At the time he and his then wife lived in a different state and my husband assured me that it was not as it looked. That the elders were keeping him in check in regards to the little girls.
What is the difference between this pedophile and an alcoholic brother who would carry around four bottles of booze at an assembly?
This is not the only pedophile "brother" who could find JW women to marry them. We had another whose record said he raped an eight year old girl yet as soon as he got out of prison he had JW women fighting over him. One sister who had three little girls under the age of 12 at the time and wanted to marry him but another sister who had a 12 year girl old got him instead.
Imagine if you had been in an auto accident involving a drunk driver and had been seriously injured so badly that you had to use a walker or wheelchair to get around in for the rest of your life. Then this alcoholic brother moves in and openly talks about living in his liquor store and has his bottles of booze with him at all times, while giving talks, going out in service and driving a car, etc. Can you imagine if you were to get upset and say something to an elder about it bothering you and then to have the elder ask you if this brother was the one who caused your accident? When you said no but that you do know for a fact that someone with a serious drinking problem should not be around alcohol and you find it offensive that this brother is coming to the meeting with bottles of booze on him the elder then turns on you and says to you "what about 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11? You cannot just assume that this brother is drinking just because he likes to have bottles of booze with him. If you keep this up you could be DF'ed for causing division in the hall.
Or could you imagine if this alcoholic brother was re-arrested for drunk driving to have an elder give in his public talk that is was just a miscarriage of justice calling the alcoholic brother a gentle giant.
Or even having an elder tell you well did you know that the brother really is not guilty. When you say to this elder 'well he served 8 years in prison' as you have seen his internet profile the elder says 'yes but he still did not do it he only took the rap for his son who was really the one driving.' 'When the police got there he claimed to be the driver to save his son. It is just like David and Absalom in the Bible. How David loved his son Absalom so much, it may not have been right but David still had Jehovah's favor.'
These things happened to me. I was asked several times if this pedophile had been the one to molest me when I was a child. When I said "no" then I was asked why did he bother me so much? When I told the elders that 95 percent of child molesters do not stop and that they need to stay away from children I was told that was worldly wisdom.
When one of the child molesters was released from prison an elder in his public talk said he moved into a home of a JW straight from prison and never left the house for over a week yet the police came and re-arrested him for breaking parole. The elder says in his talk that it was impossible because he never left the house. No where in the talk does this elder say that this brother had been in prison for child rape you only know he had been in prison. I found out later that it had been for child rape. So listening to this talk you really do feel sorry for this poor brother and this elder loooves to give this talk. He gives it at least twice a year if he can. In the talk he calls this pedophile a gentle giant who had a miscarriage of justice and yet this poor brother still stayed true to Jehovah.
I was also told that one of the child molesters did not do the crime but only took the rap for his son to spare his son from prison. And that this pedophile just had misguided love for his son. This pedophile told the whole body of elders that he did not do the crime and the elders had to believe him as no brother would ever lie to a whole body of elders.
The wounds of child abuse never leave you they are always with you. At least when you are hurt from an drunk driver your injures are visible for the most part, people feel sorry for you, want to know what happened. You get to at least talk about the accident to help you heal, people tell you it was not your fault. When you are a victim of child abuse people run from you, they do not want to hear about it, know about, or even look at you sometimes.
People would never dream of asking a victim of a drunk driver what did you do to cause it? Why were you on that road at that time of night? Why did you take that route? Did anyone see him hit you? Where are the two witnesses?
When you are a victim of child rape you get asked why did you sit on that guys lap when you were six? What were you thinking? Why did you go alone into the backyard? If the guy scared you why did you put yourself in a place where he could get to you alone. Why did you allow it to go on for so long? I know he started to molest you when you were three but come on you still allowed him to touch you when you were 15 you knew better by then didn't you? And the worst question where are your two witnesses? He says it never happened, or that you lead him on. How do we know who is telling the truth. After all his is a adult and you were just a child you could have just imagined all of this you know, a child's mind makes up a lot of things.
So I ask again why the difference between a child molester in the "truth" and an alcoholic?