A couple of weeks ago I posted about how my uber witness cousin told me I wouldn't be welcome at my aunt's family gathering after the memorial service at the Kingdom Hall. (I've been DF'd for 35 year now). He did invite me to the Kingdom Hall for the service but it was clear I wasn't welcome at the family gathering afterwards since I asked him flat out. And half of my family are not witnesses, his sister was a JW but married a nonbeliever and was allowed to leave the JWs without any consequences. In fact at the time (36 years ago) she told be that you could leave the JW's anytime you like. Of course that didn't happen to me, I had elders stalking me 2 years after I left and then they finally had enough evidence to DF me. Anyway, I decided to write a letter to my uber witness cousin telling him how hurtful and cruel his treatment of me was on this sad occasion and why couldn't he find it in his heart to invite me to the family gathering when half the people there weren't even witnesses. His oldest daugther is married and working at Bethel and his youngest is a pioneer and the middle daughter won't have anything to do with the JW's. funny!
Well he actually replied to my letter but somehow turned the whole situation around on me saying "just for the record, I'm not the one that brought up the issue of you coming and it wasn't my judgement call since the gathering was at my dad's house (my uncle who is not a witness)" He also said "I recall you saying that it probably wouldn't be a good idea if I showed up to the gathering and I agreed with you." Well of course people hear what they want to hear and that's not what I said at all!! I asked a direct question to him after he so graciously invited me to the KH where no one would speak to me; " I would be much more interested in coming to the family gathering, would I be invited to that?" That's when he shrugged and held his hands up and said NOTHING, meaning NO you would not be welcome. then he went on to say in the letter that "I drew my own conclusion that I shoudn't come to the family gathering" and "we would love to have you come to a meeting anytime and we would welcome you with open arms and it would be a very happy occasion for us" WTF? Really? What a bunch of political double speak from my uber elder witness. Very frustrating for sure but in his mind he didn't tell me not to come and he can justify it anyway he wants to let himself off the hook! Next time there is a family gathering with my cousin's sister and her family around and his family too I'm not asking permission anymore I'm going to show up and see how that flies! HA HA! Wonder what he'll do then?