Are JW husbands bad people? Would you want your daughter to marry one?
I ask because a male JW relative was baptised. He was a terror while a JW. He took the whole, "head of household" to new levels. Then, he got disfellowshipped. He calmed down alot and left alot of his controlling methods by the wayside. Then, years later, he came back to the "Truth." His devoutly JW wife was very mad and worried about him going back to Jehober. You'd think she'd be elated, but she was sicker then sick with worry that he'd turn into the controlling, abusive husband again. Luckily, he was too old to turn into a monster.
Do other JW men instill on male bible studies the "head of household" mode of male domination? Is it talked about informally among male JWs? It is a machismo thing, then ordained by Jehovah and in the Bible?
Another female JW relative made a comment that she would "never" marry a JW. She said, "The men are no good." She later clarified that it would have to be an exceptional JW man, but she hasn't found any.
Back in the Hall, I was too young to seriously know what was going on behind the facade of married couples. I heard rumors that a husband beat his wife/kids or that another husband was a pedophile. At the meetings, I couldn't tell. They were all dressed up in suits, acting all Holy. I knew what went on in my house, and it wasn't always nice.
I've read some books by ex-JWs and JWN member stories. For the most part, the JW husbands (with the exception of Joe Anderson & Flipper & a few others I might be forgetting), seem to be true arseholes.
I wouldn't want my daughter to marry a JW. Not only becuase of him being in a cult, but I'd have serious worries that he learned and internalized a pattern of male domination over their wives and children.