quantum physics is being cast aside, and we're limiting our beliefs to what we can perceive from a very small bandwidth compared to the overall reality. There are many dimensions both "below" and "above".
I often totally marvel that those who believe in science do this, dear PS (peace to you!): cast aside physics. I don't know if you read my post to dear NVL (EP - peace to you!) awhile ago, but in it I shared what the Voice I heard... when I saw the physical universe come into existence... sounded like: again, math doesn't quite describe it. Even quantum physics would be elementary to describe it. But it wasn't words so much as it was "equations" of some sort... or some kind of "language" based on highly advanced math/equations.
It baffles my MIND that such ones so limit themselves; I truly don't understand it. [Some] religionist/theists seem to make up deities based on whim or false tales, and [some] atheists tend to overly limit themselves to only that which they can see. When even THIS world is empirically full of things we have not seen... and cannot see. They don't even know what lies beyond the "time" that rules our own galaxy! I understand the first group; they've primarily been misled by the blind... so that they themselves are blind. But the second... I just can't quite get what their "thing" is... why ask others to keep an open mind, when theirs are SO limited!
As for your friend, true psychics, mediums, and healers do exist. I recently had an email discussion with a dear one about this and share with her what my Lord gave me as to who they are and how they work. Some think I'm a psychic/medium; of course, I am not, not by any means. But that's another topic which I will share on a separate thread if and when I am directed to. Even so, while I don't have great affection for the work of psychics, etc., I don't want to be like those who take issue with something even if something GOOD resulted from it. In that light, I am glad for YOU... that your pain went away. Living with pain can be tough; I well know.
Dear Nick (peace to you!), my apologies for not addressing YOUR dilemma earlier and acknowledging YOUR... ummmmm... challenges at this point in your life. I hope you can find some way to be at peace with your wife's current choice. I realize that it was SHE who "changed the game plan" after you were married... and in opposition to your wishes (which must have ticked you off, then, as much as it does now!)... but after all these years... well, it's a lot to think of walking away from (not that you're thinking of that at all!). What I mean is that if you're NOT thinking that, then you're going to have to find some way to continue dealing.
May I suggest that you be forthright with her AND the "elders" about how you feel? You dear folks have been married 37 years or so, right? Where is she gonna go? Who's gonna take care of her? I cannot imagine that you married a stupid woman (albeit misled, which is not the same thing). Use their own "tools" against them: remind them (and her) that Christ said, "What God has yoked together let NO man put apart," and if they even THINK of talking your wife away from you, you will consider them to have sinned against you AND God in doing so. And that IF they do it, there is absolutely NO way you would ever even consider joining them... but will be "stumbled"... greatly.
Tell her that you've dealt with her faith the best you could for all of these years, that it was choice she made even against your wishes, and now she must deal with YOUR choice, which is NOT to join them. Tell her that you will "associate" with them, from time to time, so long as they DON'T bring up WT "stuff"... AND she agrees to "associated" from time to time with some of YOUR friends.
And then... wash your hands of the matter. You will said your piece, outright, upfront, and, to the best of your ability, in love. What happens after that is on everyone... but you. Because you will have made yourself crystal clear. If they don't respect that, then the heck with them.
But DON'T pull "headship" on your wife; both they and she have loopholes for that. Won't work. You have to appeal to their FEAR; that really is the ONLY way. And they fear stumbling others... as well as undoing something God has done.
Again, peace to you, both... and may JAH bless!
YOUR servant and a slave of Christ,
SA
P.S., Also tell them that, as a man, your very "disappointed" in them for helping to sow discontent in YOUR household, and that such has decreased the amount of respect YOU have for THEM, in light of who they claim to be. Tell them that YOU take care of her (if that is the case) and ask them, "If we break up because of YOUR meddling, are YOU going to take care of her? If not, then, who IS?" And if they tell you, "Well, "Jehovah" will care for her", simply say, "Well, He just might have to with what you all are doing to us." Even if your wife is appealing to them, after this, they won't entertain her pleas so easily. Sorry, but they really only like the "easy" problems. Peace to you!