This is a question for those who have either been disfellowshipped or disassociated themselves. I was disfellowshipped in September 2005 and have no intention of returning. What I want to ask the rest of you is, Did you ever get that yearly visit from the elders to see if you wanted to return to the organization or just how you were doing? I have received only one such visit since I was disfellowshipped, and it was one of the most discouraging encounters I have ever had.
The Society used to remind the elders that they should call upon the disfellowshipped/disassociated people in their territory once a year. Usually that visit was made shortly after the new service year began in September. For some reason, the organization seems to think that a yearly visit is enough to encourage anyone to think about returning. From what I have learned, many never were called on, even if they were regular meeting attenders as I was. Others got one visit and none ever after.
Perhaps the attitude of many elders was best shown by an experience I had when I was a pioneer. I had found a woman in the territory who welcomed us warmly and took the offer. During the course of our conversation she revealed that she was disfellowshipped, but that she had been thinking of coming back and was very happy that I had called upon her. I told her that I was glad to talk to her and hoped that I would see her at the Kingdom Hall. I mentioned her case to one of the elders very soon thereafter, giving him her name and address. He wasn't even interested, sniffing, "She knows where the Hall is. Let her make the effort to come to the meetings." I was shocked by his cold callous attitude, but in view of my own experience, I think I can understand why I haven't heard from the local elders either. In my case a second visit would allow me to tell the elders that I never want to enter a Kingdom Hall again. It wouldn't change anything, but it would make me feel better.