In fact, it is not unsually in this hall for the women to have the jobs that bring in the most money and cover the health insurance. These ladies have to work take care of the family and do all the stuff at the hall so the men can be at home and get together for coffee.
Hmm...my guess is that I wasn't in this particular congregation.
1 Timothy 5:8 makes clear that a man must provide for his household if he is physically able to do so. I don't see how this man can get away with a clear violation of that. Paying one's debts is also a Christian responsibility. This doesn't really make sense.
My wife doesn't work, but lacks the educational qualifications to be meaningfully employed. It actually serves no purpose for her to work, as the day care costs alone would make it pointless. But that's a bit different, I think. Either way, there is no excuse for burdening one's partner with debt for the sake of increased spiritual activity. It would be unloving.
I'm not sure how long I can stay married to the Witnesses, either. Thankfully, the Witnesses divorced me after they found out I was cheating on them with multiple religions. I used to send text messages to other religions, saying, "I will leave my faith for you." I think there's a worship tape out there on the Internet somewhere, with me and the Christadelphians gettin' it on, in a spiritual sense.
But seriously, one of the hardest things to do is separate the Witnesses from your mate. I have struggled with this. One has to remember that your mate is not a religion, your mate is a person, an individual IN a religion. His actions are not in harmony with his religion anyway, so they must be a reflection of his true self. I can't see the elders accepting this behavior, I really can't.
Beyond that, this fellow needs a rather significant nudge towards working again. Women are better at 'nudging' than men are, so...I think I'll leave how you choose to do that up to your discretion. Wish you the best.