The poster EX Dub MS reminded me of something I had forgotten. At Bethel especially in construction if there was a hot job going on or a deadline you missed meetings PEROID! No questions asked.
Now if a rank and file husband who was working a low wage job to support his family or a single mom had to miss meetings due to a hot job at work what would happen to them?
I know clearly of one elder at Bethel who was demanded to work overtime while 90 Sands was being built because the jobs were hot and they had deadlines to meet, plus his congregation was doing a remodel so he missed EIGHT months of meetings straight.
He was married so he had a FAMILY his wife never saw him. She was very upset. He was working so much he fell asleep once while on stilts and hurt himself. They were totally overworking him. We left Bethel and I heard though the grape line that they divorced, I wonder why? The wife I heard stayed at Bethel and he left and she remarried. Sad very sad.
What I do not understand why the clear double standard. Why did I not wake up then? I remember getting into some heated discussions with some Bethel elders asking them why this was going on. Was not this brother's spiritual life important? I was worried that they might make my husband do it someday. The answer was they were doing Jehovah's work and Jehovah would carry them.
I clearly remember saying you would not allow a family head in the local congregation to work at supporting his family and missing so many meetings to stay an elder how is this any different. The answer was again this is work for Jehovah. The family head is working in the world.