Sorry I hit some button that I did not mean to and it posted before I could write it. But I was thinking of how the GB really are like true abusers.
Elizabeth Smart was on Dateline Friday night and her abuser basically wanted her life, to take her life away by enslaving her. The same with Jaycee Dugard and her captor Phillip Garrido he took her life away for 19 years. My parents were abusive and they told me to my face that I could have a life after they died but until then I owed them. I was to take care of them till they died. Most abusers do this.
What does the FS salve say, "this is not the real life" do not go an education , do not get good paying jobs. How many times have we heard that we are to sacrifice our lives now because we will have a better future ahead of us in the new system?
It really does a mind trip on a person to live under this kind of control. I read that Phillip Garrido had words that he would use even from prison to make Jaycee feel guilty for going back to her family and leaving him. My parents made me feel horrible that I wanted to enjoy my life to be a normal person, they told me to my face that a child is to live for their parents. I would look at other children of normal family's going to school (my parents made me drop out of high school) and I would wonder why I had to live like I did. I read part of a diary that Jaycee Dugard wrote and she said the same thing. When could she have her life to live to enjoy her life?
But the FS does the same thing. Do not enjoy this life as it is not the real life. They are taking our lives and the lives of our loved ones away from us. Like abused victims it is hard to see that you are being abused. My mind was so confused, I am sure like Jaycee's and other victims. My parents did nice things for me how could they be abusing me? They gave me food a place to live, they would give me things I asked for at times. Phillip Garrido bought Jaycee pets that she wanted. When you live under abuse it is hard to see that it is abuse. That is why victims go back to the abuser because of what their abusers tell them.
This is all such a mind trip. The GB is using the same tactics that abusers use. I am sure they KNOW IT!
The funny thing is you can see another family is strange and abusive but you do not alway see it in your own. Even now after my parents have been dead for five years there are still words or places that will make me feel worthless. It never goes away. You work and work to realize that you have a right to life but all it takes is one word to change that for a minute or an hour or a day and you are right back to the horrible feelings worthlessness. I think that is part of the problem with most of us on the board is we still have family in, there are still those catch words or the meetings we have to watch them go to on and on it is still part of us even though we want so bad to be away from the WT we can't.