Awkward position with family in relation to the truth

by slimboyfat 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • slimboyfat

    My mum (who's never been a Witness) just phoned me up. She says my aunt (my mum's sister) wants to get back into the truth. My aunt stopped going to meetings a couple of years ago. She separated from her husband and she left all her Witness books behind when she left the house at the separation. I also suspect that the Panorama child abuse programme a few years ago might have prompted her to cool on the Witnesses because she was very angry about that programme and she told me so at the time.

    So anyway the reason my mum phoned me up is that my aunt wants to know if I can give her the latest study books.

    My mum laughed and said, "well she would have to make changes in her life if she wants to get back into the truth, wouldn't she!" I'm not sure what my mum meant by that exactly so I just said mmm okay - not my business. Anyway my mum says she will come over tomorrow and we will visit my aunt together and I will take some of the new books. In particular I am supposed to bring any JW books that talk about suicide. This may be because my aunt has a friend whose son killed himself. I don't think any of the books talk about suicide. It would have to be a Watchtower but I don't think I will take bound volumes over.

    So I am a bit conflicted. I will give my aunt some books if she wants them, but I don't want to encourage her to go backto the Witnesses. My aunt is usually a very stong willed person, but she must be feeling quite vulnerable at the moment to be reachin out for the Witnesses again. As much as I don't want to encourage her, I can't imagine now would be a great time to discuss doubts about the Witnesses. I guess I should have done that a long time ago. Plus my family including my mum still think I am a committed JW. How do I backtrack on that all of a sudden? So what do I do? I would feel pretty rotten if I just gave her some Witness books and never told her what I really think about it.

  • cantleave

    Why don't you slip in a copy of Crisis of Conscience or Captives of a Concept.

  • slimboyfat

    What without saying anything? How would that work? They are not exactly pamphlet size you can hide in another book!

    If my aunt is feeling vulernable and wants the security of the Witnesses then maybe CofC is not exactly what she needs right now. As I said, maybe giving her a copy of CofC is something I should have done a few years ago.

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    Seems to me now would be the perfect time to bring up your new found feelings about JW life . Why do you not want to be honest with her ?

  • EmergedAsMe

    I don't understand why it has to be secret (your feelings about JW) when you said your Mum for example was never a JW. Sure it might feel a little weird taking a different stance on JW, but your Aunt may find what you have to share quite freeing.

  • jamiebowers

    Take the newest Watchtower publications but also find out exactly what is ailing her. For instance, since she's concered about her friend who lost her son to suicide, why not look up some valuable secular information for her? Then do the same with whatever else is ailing her.

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