by XJW4EVR 19 Replies latest jw friends
I think Outlaw's onto something .
Your dad's religion doesn't have a formula for answering you. He doesn't have words to print out for you. Just take the actions that will help him say a word bak to yu.. then another.... and another. He's all froze up.
At least that's what it all sounds like. Hope it goes Great!
I agree with Outlaw..
Pick up the phone and let him hear your voice
I'm sad to hear your dad didnt reply. The phone call idea is a good one but only if you can cope if he just tells you he doesnt want to talk...??
Loz x
You got your hopes up because you hope for the best in people. Its not your fault he isn't showing any "natural affection."
I agree with Outlaw also. Call him.
The annual email from my dad goes something like this:
Blah blah blah Circuit Overseer's Visit blah blah blah Assembly blah blah blah Kingdom Hall blah blah blah get ready for Service. Love Dad.
No "how are you?", no "How's work?" or "How are the kids?" My Worldly™ relatives (whom he speaks to more than he does me) don't even get a mention.
Frankly, if all he has to talk about is JW crap, I'd rather have the silent treatment.
I absolutely have relatives like that too. An aunt and an uncle come to mind right away. I have decided the same as you. If all they can talk about is JW crap then they're out of my life. I don't need it. I have other things to fill my life.
I'm sorry it went that way.
All I can say in reflection on humans and their relations with each other is that we want God to be real and we want him to care and lacking the comfort he could provide and chooses to not give, we try to get the same from another fellow human, who was likewise spurned by God.
It is far better to be human then a WTdrone.....
IF you don't wanna go Outlaws route..... may I suggest.
Figure he will never respond but keep sending 'update' emails to him....... yes lure him into enjoying hearing about your life.
Then in about a year if he hasn't responded yet.... you can send on that says, I have prayed you would respond to at least one of the emails I sent over the last past year. I don't know if you ever open them, care or love me enough to be concerned about me or our relationship....... this will be the last email for awhile unless I receive a response..... I really hope you respond dad, I love you, I only want you to love me back in return.
Why Did I Allow My Hopes to Get Raised?
The word of my Lord, the Holy One of Israel, JAHESHUA MISCHAJAH, who is the Son and Christ of the MOST Holy One of Israel, JAH of Armies, to you, dear XJW (and the greatest of love and peace to you!)... is that you allowed your hope to get raised because you LOVE your father and love... hopes all things! Thus, your love... HOPED... regardless of what your head told you might occur. For the sake of your LOVE... you ignored your head and went with your hope. And for that, you are to be commended!
The word of my Lord to you is, do not despair, then, that your father did not fulfill your hope because love also BEARS all things. This was and is not about whether your father loves you - you know he does but that his "master", the WTBTS won't let him SHOW that love. It is about you. You, who are no longer enslaved to such a tyrant master can... and should... CONTINUE in YOUR love... and through such love "bear" your father's current scorn. Why? NOT because you expect HIM to love YOU... but because YOU... love HIM.
The word of my Lord to you, therefore, dear XJW... is to STAND FIRM in your love - you won't be disappointed. Do NOT be directed away because of the offense. True, it may take a while... but what you hope for WILL come to be. In the meantime, allow your heart to imagine where your father would be if YOU allow yourself to give out [in love]... and then there is NO ONE to show him what love really "looks" like.
Dear XJW, your dear father CANNOT show you love... because no one has shown HIM love. Those he follow don't KNOW it, so they cannot TEACH it to him... or anyone else! They have a "form" of "godly devotion," but "prove false.... to its power." Do not, therefore, let your heart be pained. Do not take this as a personal slight. Rather, PRAY FOR YOUR DEAR FATHER... that he may WAKE UP... before it is too late!! How to you do that? By means of YOUR love... pity... compassion... and empathy: put yourself in his place and think of how he is going to feel when he DOES wake up - whether now... or later. Either way, he is going to be greatly chagrined, yes? In turmoil, just as the Rich Man! Just as some of us are NOW for how WE conducted ourselves when WE were slaves of that Harlot. Would you TRULY wish that upon him?
Love is patient, dear one, and so it does not completely "write off". Ever. Rather... it does as you have done here - hopes. It believes all things, bears all things... and NEVER fails. The word of my Lord to you is, do not, then, let YOUR love fail... even if you father has let his. By this, you will conquer your father's errors against you... and come off victorious.
Dear ones... you, I, we, ALL... have one of the GREATEST opportunities given to earthling man set before us: to love those "persecuting" us and PROVE ourselves sons of God. To show love... even to our enemies. To forgive... and release. Especially those who harbor animosity against us... and particuarly those who harbor it against us... for absolutely NO reason other than the sake of the Christ and the leadings of false christs.
We can, ALL of us... come off victorious! All we need do is CONQUER... which we can do by means of GOD's love, which He has shown us, through Christ! And if we need help, we HAVE a Helper... Christ, the Holy Spirit! All we need do is remain in union with him (John 6:48-58, 15:1-7) and we CAN conquer! Wherever we are lacking in the fruit of God's holy spirit... whether it be in love, joy, peace, faith, kindness, mildness, goodness, long-suffering, or self-control... we only need ASK... in FAITH... and such fruit will be granted us! (Luke 11:13)
I bid you, dear XJW... and all who hear... peace, strength, and ears to hear when the Spirit and the Bride say to YOU:
"Come! Take life's water... the holy spirit of JAH, who is the Most Holy One of Israel, which spirit bears MUCH fruit in those who partake of it... which fruit comes forth from God's Tree of LIFE (John 15:1; 14:6)... His Son and Christ, the Holy One of Israel and Holy Spirit, my Lord, JAHESHUA MISCHAJAH... free!"
YOUR servant and a slave of Christ,
SA
