The sad fact is, it's the easiest thing to do to marry poorly in the borg. The best marriages always seemed to me to be the irreagular/inactive, who actually invested time in their marriage instead of the borgs ridiculous schedule.
Jeff, I've noticed that too. Matter fact, I'd say the people that are irregular/inactive seem to be more normal in general than many of the ones indoctrinated beyond hope. I'm single now man, and it's funny that the one's I'm attracted to, are the ones that aren't drones. It's the ones not making the national average hours, not commenting, not so much as even reading a scripture. They might comment once in a while. What I like about em though, is when you talk to them after the meeting or outside of a JW scenario in a normal setting, you can't help but be intrigued by who they are. It's attractive. The average pioneer amongst other drone types speak to you as if you're interviewing them. Can't stand that.
Question for you Jeff, looking back on it all, would you call your 19yr ol self, a "nice guy"? As in the "Nice Guys Finish Last Class"? I've seen your story and others play out so many times. As a teen and young adult I was "nice guy." Always the nice guy that lets some woman run all over him. As I came into my own as an adult, I vowed I will NEVER get married to someone who doesnt want to work. I will NEVER marry a pioneer. If a woman shows the slightest sign of mental instability, I would never give her any inclination that she and I could ever be together. Some weeks ago, I noticed a couple things that I found touching, that a couple single pioneers in my hall did. I started to get them a couple gifts just to say I noticed their kindness. I told a relative about my plans, and she warned me immediately, don't do that. Those women are single and desperate. Later on I thought, man she's right. That's something that could have got ugly. The "nice guy" creeping out of me again.
Dating and marriage is difficult enough, without the old guys at the WT creating a culture that suffocates it even more with all their theocratic rigamarole. Glad your future is looking bright though Jeff. Wish the best for you man.