Hello guys!I am just introducing myself here. I have been visiting this site for about a year but never really posted much but I have really learned and enjoyed the topics on this forum, in fact I think this is the best discussion forum I have yet to come across .
A little about my situation is I am a non religious person married to a devout Witness, when I met him 4 yrs ago he was out in the "world", never really mentioned his beliefs as we were enjoying life without it. The more we dated the more I realized that something wasn't right. He would drink alot, depression, suicidal thoughts,talked about being destroyed alot and missing his family. I didn't understand when he would try to explain that he couldn't communicate with his fam cause he was dissed(by the way, he has a bro. that was not dissed that he still partied, smoked, drank with that wasn't dissed) That was the first thing that didn't add up to me. His parents shunned HIM for doing the exact same thing his (in good standing) brother was doing. When I asked him how is that his bro gets to talk to his parents but he can't but you guys still party together, He would say, "well the elders don't know about his wrongdoing yet"... I'm scratching my head like "what about what God knows" he just shrugs his shoulders.
I'm thinkin' in the back of my mind, this is not right.. these people are catering to men not God.....so I brushed it off, we were ok as long as religion was out the picture.
Well after 2 years of dating we had gotten really attached. Couldn't go a day without being with one another..so we made plans to get married.
Sooo, he started going back to the Hall and studying, and told me the only way he can "come back to Jehovah" and still be with me was if he married me while he was still out in the "world" so I'm like ok lets get some things clear then:
I asked him did he know what he was getting into, I will never become a Witness as I don"t agree with some of the doctrines.. he says nonchalantly "thats fine, as long as you don't try to change me, I won"t try to change you"..ok, cool..so we did it. Got married, he sent his letter and was back within weeks afterward..
Things started to change..... the once silly, always cracking jokes guy went to a very serious always referencing things to the bible type person.. I mean every bad thing that happens he has a scripture to prove Jehovah is right or that we are in the last days.... My thing is, it seems we have been in the last days since the beginning of time. If you read the Bible, all the things thats happening now happened waaaay back then or even worst things happend in the Bible. So, it was never a time when the world wasn't bad! Or don't let some kind of disaster hit, like a tornadoe etc.... he's like "oh see, Jehovah said this was gone happen" etc...He asked me did I want to go see 2012 with him, I DO want to go see it , but not with him cause he's already talking that "yea if you don't wanna be apart of that, come to Jehovahs side stuff." I'm really not trying to hear that everytime something happens. jeesh! lol and on the flip side, when something goes good for a Witness," thats Jehovah blessing his people" but what about when an "evil apostate"or a non Witness experience a blessing? Is Jehovah blessing them as well? My point is, good and bad happens to ALL, I have learned that bad people recieve the same blessings as good people, so THINGS JUST HAPPEN! It's alot of instances I will post later.
I actually studied the "What Does The Bible Really Teach Book" after his mom suggested I "learn what they believed" I agreed not knowing it was a Bible Study intended to get me to become a Witness. I went on ahead and studied for a lil' over a year and after the book was done I told her that I wasn't interested in continuing, she asked why.. I told her that I wasn't ready and still had some things that I am having a hard time with. She didn't put any pressure on me, in fact she told me that it's good that I am being honest and not just becoming a Witness to please family because it was a lot of those in the Cong. I was like whooa! She admitted that! She was really nice about it.
My huby on the other hand doesn't understand why I stopped... I told him " I'm not planning on becoming a Witless<--- I like this (lol) so why keep studying"? He didn"t say anything because he knew the deal when we met.
Altogether we have a great marraige as long as the Religious stuff don"t come up, we have fun together , have a great sex life but when that comes up, it"s a bit tense in the household, so for the sake of peace and happiness I still attend the meetings with him and study the WT. I don't mind it but it's getting to the point now where I see that I may have to stop cause now people are questioning me at the Hall. "Weren't you studying"? What happened? or " Are you in School? My hubby is reaching for more responsibilities (he is DEVOUT) and no amount of info against the ORG will get him to think, so I don"t even try. I still have a pile of paperwork at the job that I printed in hopes that he would read and maybe see what is going on behind the scenes, but he made it clear that he will not feed into that so I will not go there with him since I love him and don"t want to take him away from what he cherishes, plus I would want him to "want " to leave. I don't want to be responsible for him "losing his family" sorta speak, so I leave it be and just hope that we will make it ..we have no children, but he has 2 and an ex wife that are in the truth but not really" in it". They do all the things worldy people do. (shaking head in shame).
So thats a brief of my story, and I wish I was able to post from my phone but this site won"t enable it :-(