Wantstoleave, seems you have your head screwed on. - For those of us that still kept in touch with the outside world while 'still in' we managed to have things much more in perspective I believe.
There seems to be a complete naivety amongst some. - My ex husband was spending time with a brother in his cong who took a shine to my kids. - bear in mind I am DFd and don't have any input on who they see in my exes cong. -
Now don't get me wrong, I am NOT accusing this man of anything, and he did nothing, so I don't want to sully him, but this is about vigilance. - he started to buy them gifts, coats, shoes. - my ex told me he had taken them to the trafford centre and bought them presents. - I immediately expressed my concern and disagreement - my ex said these words..
Don't be silly Andi, he's a Jehovah's Witness.
I just stared at him. Agog.
when they started to recieve text messages from him - which I saw on my sons mobile, I contacted my ex, and told him in no uncertain terms to tell this man not to text my children, -
again - he said I was being over the top, he was just friendly and harmless. - now I am sure this is probably the case, but I told him that it was inappropriate that an old man was texting young boys phones and it had to stop, as did the gifts.
it stopped. - I think my ex realised when I told him, that actually it was a bit weird.
my point is, some will go along with this kind of thing - my boys really needed coats, shoes, shirts etc, - but I was not happy for them to be spending time with an old fella who I had never laid eyes on and then trust them because they are a "Jehovah's Witness'
dumb and naive.