It never ceases to amaze me how many people are succumbing to low-self esteem by allowing toxic family members dictate their lives, and sit by like sheepish puppy-dogs while they get berated and told that they are basically crowfood shit.
"Oh, I'm just trying to keep the peace", some may say. I say you need to go on the offensive. And not the way that you imagine offensive.
Family in the typical high-control group just cannot get their heads around the fact that it is possible to live life happy and free away from the cult - so they will readily participate in this activity any chance they can. What can you do? Cut off the conversation like cancer.
DON'T let them get the chance to talk about the kingdumb hall. DON'T let them get the chance to talk about anything. You need to be selfish and talk only about yourself - and how happy you are, what you are looking forward to, how many friends you have, how wonderful work is going... go on, and on, and on. Do not ask a single solitary thing about them. Believe me, they will soon get the picture. They want to start talking about something negative / i.e. another sibling who isn't doing that well in the "truth?". Shut them down - change the subject, or end the phone conversation.
"Lovers of god rather than lovers of themselves". BULLSHIT. Just because you don't buy into a cult does not mean that you are loving yourself. You are doing the right thing by loving your life and being happy. Also, you are cutting out the affected family member that is completely brainwashed by a high-control group.
"You talk like an apostate". (definition - turning your back on god) BULLSHIT. When in the fuck did turning your back on a cult make you an apostate against god? More nonsense thrown at you by brainwashed nitwits.
The only way that you will be happy is to cut the dub shit out like cancer. And believe you me, if they keep up the negative talk, YOU need to cut them out of your life like cancer alltogether and hope they will come to their senses one day.
Don't believe that inner voice of low-self esteem you hear all the time. Stop letting these people take control of your lives today.