Do you parent differently then your JW parents?

by cognac 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognac
    cognac

    My family (JWs) don't really approve of some of the things I do as far as my parenting style goes...

    My daughter, I love her so much. It's as if I can't ever show her enough love. I am an attached parent. It's just a very gentle parenting style. Everyone said that I would spoil her and she needs to cry it out at night time in order to sleep through the night... I wonder if letting your child cry it out is what makes them afraid of the dark when they get a little older. Anyways, I just can't do it. I will never parent there way. I can't ever do what was done to me...

    I don't really let her cry a lot at all and I'm told that babies are "supposed to cry". Just, nobody respects the way I parent. I do not believe in spoiling, but I do believe in making sure your child has absolute trust that you are always going to be there no matter what to comfort, protect, nurture, and love them. This is simply the way I do things.

    My daughter for the most part sleeps through the night. She's is an incredibly happy baby with a great personality. However, everything is attributed to me being lucky cause I have a "mirable baby" evidently despite the way I parent...

    Anyways, do you parent differently then your JW parents do in general? Do they say they approve/disapprove? How has it worked out for you?

  • nelly136
    nelly136

    yup i dont beat mine or tell them gods gonna kill them if they dont behave

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5

    All my babies were breastfed on demand, meaning if they woke up at night they got a tit. Put them and me right back to sleep. It also meant that I didn't carry around bottles when I visited my parents. My father didn't like me breastfeeding my babies at all. Kept calling them "Titty Babies" and giving me untrue and unasked for advice on how bad breastfeeding was for the babies.

    All of my kids are very healthy, hardly have any colds which was quite a feat when we lived in Indiana. And my 15 year old is 6' and about 4 inches taller than my father.

    Josie

  • cognac
    cognac

    mrsjones - Bf'ing is great for there immune systems!

  • hamsterbait
    hamsterbait

    A MOTHER has healthy instincts for raising kids. So do fathers.

    )))))ing religions wreck that and put in place all kinds of fantasy rewards and punishments.

    Funny how all the books on baby-rearing in the 20th cent. were written by MALES at a time when most males left baby rearing to mommy.

    Why would any normal parent make their kids miserable with the WT "jEHOOBIE KILLS" threat.

    HB

  • hamsterbait
    hamsterbait

    A MOTHER has healthy instincts for raising kids. So do fathers.

    )))))ing religions wreck that and put in place all kinds of fantasy rewards and punishments.

    Funny how all the books on baby-rearing in the 20th cent. were written by MALES at a time when most males left baby rearing to mommy.

    Why would any normal parent make their kids miserable with the WT "jEHOOBIE KILLS" threat.

    HB

  • cognac
    cognac

    I have no idea hamster... I do know that when I was little my mom told me that my grandmother would never become a JW so I thought the only way for her to get into the new system was for her to die... And I thought she had to do it soon because the big A was coming any day now...

    So, I used to beg her to die. She said she would die but that wasn't enough for me. I told her she HAD to die today... Then, I would be upset that she didn't die...

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    Why would anyone raise their kids under the guidance of a child hating organization? I didn't raise my stepkids from infancy, but you can be sure they had a much different childhood than I did. And I mustn't have done a bad job, as they come home often now that they're grown and bring their kids with them. My jw mother, however, shuns me and has very little contact with my brother., so basically, she has no children.

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