Is it better to disassociate oneself as one of JWs or wait for due process and be disfellowshipped?
Here's One ....
by The Berean 10 Replies latest jw friends
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leavingwt
Each case is different.
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oompa
what is your goal?
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The Berean
oompa: My goal is to gain mental wellness and to be in a position to assist others
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ninja
better disfellowshipping them I say
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wobble
Or you can Fade.
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Wobble
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Nellie
Well, I faded for as long as I could - then came the knock at the door . . . so I DA'd myself. My reasoning - I wanted them to understand that I wasn't disfellowshipped because I "couldn't keep their rules" or "wanted to engage in wrongdoing" - I DA'd myself because I had found out that "they weren't who they claimed to be and I no longer wanted to be associated with them." I left on MY terms, not theirs!
Semantics, some might say - but it meant all the difference to me.
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Quirky1
Just fade......
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Witness 007
Change you identity....move to Alaska and grow a beard!
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dobbie
My experience so far is that d'ad whereas sis in law was d'fd. Thing is they are all alot kinder (some even had contact with her secretly) to and about her whereas i was honest and didn't hurt anyone but am totally ignored and disliked. I am sure it is because she was d'fd so it wasn't her decision, therefore she is more likely to go back to them but i left of my own free will. So they look much more kindly on her than me. Fading can work for a while but to be totally successful i think you need to move where none of the witnesses know you, otherwise when you least expect it they'll be checking up on you.